The Curse of December

  1. I acknowledge that I am angry. I acknowledge that I am jealous that someone else found something that I am looking for.
  2. Feel the anger without judgment. It’s okay to feel angry and jealous. There are no good or bad emotions. All emotions are okay.
  3. Remember that emotion is a wave. It rises and falls and it will go away soon. Deep breaths.
  4. Just because someone else found love, it doesn’t mean that you won’t find it.
  5. You don’t know the ups and downs they’ve been through to get where they are.
  6. It’s better to wait for the right person than to rush into a marriage because you have FOMO.
  7. Life is a jungle gym, not a race. Everyone has their own path. Comparison is the thief of joy.
  8. It’s okay for you to live a life in which romantic love isn’t for you. You have so much else that others don’t have. Focus on that.
  9. Be a decent human being and respond with a congratulations message and add it to your calendar.
  10. Hey you’ll get to meet all your friends again and get drunk and dance. It’ll be fun catching up with everyone.
  1. Wedding season
  2. NRI season
  3. Shoot season
  4. Show season (shows that I’m working)
  5. Show FOMO season (shows that I’m missing because I’m working)
  6. Changes in medication
  7. Falling in love
My actual calendar this month
  1. Wedding season — I focused on the friends, the reunions, the laughter, and love. Also having turned 30 now, aunties have given up on trying to pressure me to get married. I’m a lost cause now.
  2. NRI season — I learned to say no to those bazillion plans. I learned to say that I need to rest, that I’m working, that I can’t make it.
  3. Shoot season — I love my work, so I enjoyed this as I always do.
  4. Show season (shows that I’m working) — Same as the above.
  5. Show FOMO season (shows that I’m missing because I’m working) — I am honestly constantly thrilled that I get to work in this industry. If there’s any reason I’m missing a show, I’m glad it’s because I have to work at another one.
  6. Changes in medication — Lower dosage means recovery, means improvement, means I’m getting better.
  7. Falling in love — As tough as this one is, I’m learning to appreciate on the grandeur of the feeling of reciprocated attraction, rather than the fear of its impermanence. It’s the best kind of hormonal intoxication and there’s no point resisting it just because it’s December. That new crush dopamine rush is what great art is made of and who am I if not an artist?




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